5 Things Mom Taught Me & The Mother’s Day Brunch Ideas

12 May 2017
This year, like many, my mother and I are separated by distance.  Where I would have liked to have planned a perfect Mother’s Day Brunch to share with her (together with a gift giving including the bath products I got her from Atlanta Bath Company), this year we’ll chat over phone.  And considering finals week so far, I will be a mixture of a mix of nerves and exhaustion. The best thing about most moms though, is that they usually understand and they’ve definitely seen you at some of your lowest moments.

Mom and Me | Mother's Day Brunch

Mom and Me: A Quintessential 80’s Childhood Picture

Through Hell and Back

Most of our lowest moments were spent together, trying to pick up the pieces after my dad passed away when I was ten.  My mom had been a young mother and we relied a lot on him before he fell ill.  I watched, not able to comprehend the magnitude of it all, as my mom had to deal with the crushing agony of caring for both him and me.  He had brain cancer and the nature of his disease meant that, at times, he needed help with every single aspect of living, worsening as it progressed.  She had to carry that responsibility alone for two years, while watching the man she loves suffer.  I can’t even imagine how she got through it, but she did.  And she ensured I did, too.

Watching her go through that, I learned a lot.  Each year I gain more perspective, too.  While we don’t always get along, I have massive respect for what she accomplished under the circumstances.  When I become a mother myself, I can only imagine I will gain even more appreciation.

Here are the top 5 things I’ve learned from my mom.

1. Don’t ever give up.

If I learned anything from watching my mom, it was that persistence can pay off in droves.  She worked sometimes three housekeeping jobs with very few hours off in between.  The stress and pressure she put on her body and spirit must have been tremendous.  But she always told me that one day she would make herself a business and be free of that kind of work.  And she did.  She’s an entrepreneur now with a big book of business for her community.

2. Loyalty

My mom is a stereotypical redhead and, with that, comes a fiery passion and temper.  She would stop at nothing to protect those she loves and, like a charging mother bear, she came to my defense more times than I care to admit.  I knew that, no matter what, she had my corner.  Oftentimes with an appropriate scolding afterwards for getting myself in that mess in the first place.

3. Not to Take Shhh…Crap from Anyone

Speaking of, my mom doesn’t just go to bat for her loved ones, she also boasts loads of self-respect and dignity.  And if anyone else did not see her for the goddess she is, they were kicked right to the curb–literally.  Although she didn’t date for years after my dad passed away, she did eventually date.  One boyfriend turned out to be less than classy and she packed up all his stuff, left it outside to bake in the desert sun, and told him where to stick it (and “it” wasn’t his truck).

4. Being Sensitive isn’t weak

If the picture I’m painting of my mom makes her sound hard as nails, then you should be aware that she’s able to still wear her heart on her sleeves.  She’s bailed out friends and family whenever and where ever they’ve needed help and she’s not afraid to cry or show her emotions.  I’ve learned a lot from her about the importance of showing vulnerability.

5. Unconditional love

While unconditional love does not mean accepting or putting up with abuse–even emotional abuse, one of the most under-estimated forms–it does mean exactly what it implies.  Even if love is telling someone to knock it off.  I’ve learned to set up boundaries from my mom and I’ve learned the importance of forgiveness.  She’s forgiven many people who’ve hurt her immensely, while having the wisdom to ensure they can’t re-open that wound.

What has your mom taught you?  Think about it, and be sure she knows.

Mother's Day Brunch

And do something special for her, if you can.  A Mother’s Day Brunch can go a long way to showing her that you value her.

If I could be with my mom this weekend, I’d make her these scrambled eggs, roasted asparagus, and smoked salmon “smushed” potatoes.  I got the idea from this Garlic Smashed Potatoes recipe from Damn Delicious.

Here are some ideas if you still need to plan Mother’s Day brunch for mom:

You can’t go wrong with any of these.  And I’m pretty sure mom would appreciate the effort.

Mother's Day Brunch

Happy Mother’s Day, all! (Especially you, mom).

 

26 Comments

  • Reply lex 13 May 2017 at 5:10 pm

    big list you have here, 2 and 4 does it for me, every mum knows the best for her kids. so warm and nice post.

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:56 pm

      You’re so right, Lex. Thanks for sharing!

  • Reply Amber 13 May 2017 at 7:02 pm

    Mm, my stomach is growling. This looks great.

    My mom taught me so much! Never to give up is a big one. She was a commander in the Air Force so she taught me what a strong woman was.

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:56 pm

      Your mom sounds incredible! Wow! Thank you for sharing!

  • Reply Kristina@thelordandthelady.com 14 May 2017 at 5:24 am

    I loved the mix of revealing yourself and then showing food. It was very touching and I hope I can teach my girls a few things with my actions like your mom has with you. and man, does that food look awesome.

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:55 pm

      I’m sure you’re teaching them SO much! Thanks for the feedback!

  • Reply waitingforrain28 14 May 2017 at 10:16 am

    Love these life lessons! Paired with pictures of food! I am hungry now and it is 4am here. XD

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:55 pm

      I hope you found something good to eat 🙂

  • Reply Sarah 14 May 2017 at 11:12 am

    My mom taught me how to be frugal. I didn’t know I was on the poorer side growing up until I was older. I thought everyone had cereal for dinner! LOL. But seriously though, she taught me to always get the best price for everything.

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:54 pm

      My mom and her mother were both very frugal, so I I definitely relate! Hey and…I still don’t see anything wrong with cereal for dinner sometimes. Great life lesson–thanks for sharing!

  • Reply Barbara Radisalvjeivc 14 May 2017 at 2:44 pm

    Your mom sounds like an incredible person. It takes a lot to experience the kind of grief she must have endured as your dad slowly died and still care for both of you.

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:53 pm

      It’s very true. It’s hard to imagine how difficult that must have been for her. Thank you for stopping by.

  • Reply Jennifer 14 May 2017 at 5:05 pm

    Your breakfast brunch recipe sounds very healthy! I love having healthy meals for breakfast. I like avocado with my eggs, but I have never tried asparagus for breakfast! That’s a really good idea! And your mom sounds like she taught you very valuable things for your life!

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:52 pm

      She certainly did. Hey, and you can’t go wrong with avocado! Thanks for sharing!!

  • Reply Maggie 14 May 2017 at 8:42 pm

    My mom taught me a long time ago that being crazy is a bad thing and that I am never alone. Thank you for your list!

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:51 pm

      Thanks for sharing, Maggie

  • Reply Ron 15 May 2017 at 5:28 am

    Chava – Lovely post.

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:51 pm

      Thanks so much Ron 🙂

  • Reply Chinomso 15 May 2017 at 5:40 am

    I must say: your site is lovely. I have never come across someone’s cultural journey through food and lifestyle essentials. The salmon mini cupcakes are such a cute idea. I’ll try it. Thanks for the list.

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:50 pm

      Thank you for the wonderful feedback. I hope my journey is informative if not at least entertaining!

  • Reply Ellie Augustin 15 May 2017 at 6:52 am

    Love this post! Moms Rock! Thanks for sharing.

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:49 pm

      Absolutely! Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment!

  • Reply Andrea R Warren (@WaldorfFries) 15 May 2017 at 7:38 am

    The smoked salmon mini cupcakes look incredible! Love the post too your mom sounds amazing

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:48 pm

      Thank you. I feel fortunate.

  • Reply interNATionalcaty 15 May 2017 at 8:31 am

    The smoked salmon is making me hungry. What I learned from my mom is strength and to continue on.

    • Reply Chava 15 May 2017 at 3:48 pm

      I love that–moms can be very inspirational. Thank you for sharing!

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